Is she a demon or deer or the owner blissful and soothing eyes-all combined into one

Having underlined that her eyes have the magnetic power to eat away the very life force, Valluvar is very much feeling embarrassed that he has not told the full truth. It is alright that like the lord of devil or death she is virtually killing him by her penetrating and powerful eyes but the million dollar question is ;Is she not tender soft , innocent and hence should he not be faithful in portraying her with all these attributes. Shall we listen to our saint?

Is she a demon or devil(in taking away my life) or

The possessor of the merciful and graceful eyes

In the act of exchanging love

And nursing and nurturing the relationship, or

Is she a deer/doe grossly bemused and bewildered?

Oh,all these three dimensions are alternatively found

In the gaze and glance of this beautiful damsel.

A single stare contains all the three aspects.

In Her Battling Eyes reside the lord of Death

All of us born into this world are destined to die one day. When and how that death will embrace no one knows. But that is the only certainty of life. How will the death experience look like and what happens thereafter is also a mystery. Valluvar in a lighter vein says and suggests how that Lord Of Death (LOD) would resemble. Kindly note that he indulges in poetic exaggeration:

Until I saw her (our heroine).I hardly had

Any notion about how the lord of death

Would look like to the ordinary mortals

And some would prefer to call  him as devil of death

.

After seeing her I know full well that

He resides in her battling eyes only,

Her powerful eyes have hijacked me,

And my life. 

Her reciprocal glance is akin to a vast army attacking me

The girl is an embodiment of beauty of infinite variety. The enchanting eye of the girl occupies pride of place in deconstructing the drama of love life. Let us listen to the mischief done by the captivating eye:

She saw me and I also glanced at her,

This exchange of eye contact,

Her reciprocal counter look   by itself was heavy

As it was like an army sufficiently strong enough

To bombard me and knock me out ;

It was not merely her look,

Her penetrating eyes that pierced into my heart,

But also her other assets 

A well proportioned physical structure attack me.

Bemused and Blidfolded By the Intoxicating beauty of the Girl

Having commented on the pros and cons of cyber intimacy let me againevisit the true love as depicted in Kural ,the ancient Tamil text dealing with all aspects of life. There are many wonderful translations of the said classic and yet at 60 plus I have self imposed a task of doing a simple translation and interpretation of this treasure - the infinite variety of which cannot be captured by words.

My new found love for kural is meant for going back to the roots of my language which for all intent and purpose had  been forgotten by the force of teaching Economics in English Language for more than four decades.I know I am not exploiting my full potentials of my subject but I am also aware that myself imposed commitment is also equally important for I can work differently.

IN the next few days I will dwell upon the perceived all encompassing beauty of a girl.

Who is this incredibly charming and pleasantly beautiful girl ?

Is she an angel from the heavenly sky?

Or a forest dwelling colourful peacock?

Oh,this enchanting damsel is wearing heavy ear rings

Then she must be a human on earth.

Be that as it may be I am perplexed and bemused,

Bewildered and blindfolded by her

Intoxicating beauty

Cyber intimacy:we cannot blame the machine for human folly

The cyber world provides an option to fall in love without actually falling in love. This is not to suggest that internet based love or friendship lacks any long term relationship and or devoid of any sentimental touch.

Real love is not founded by gathering or exchanging information or building up database so as to match the reciprocity of material benefits and interests. It is about emotions, feelings ,heart and mind. Regardless of the platform from which love springs what matters most is that there must be deep and abiding friendship, fondness and likeness toward each other, independent of personal preferences and prejudices and political attitudes.

If the focus of attention is on short term casual sexual encounter or seeking a virtual pleaure,cyber intimacy becomes a manipulative mechanism and tend to become exploitative. The weakness of the disadvantaged sex is taken advantage of on a rainy day and the affair will be easily forgotten once the weather has cleared. We cannot blame the machine for human folly.

Marriage is not a simple poetry or a beautiful prose as pre marital days are. Once united the couple must confront so many daily challenges tolerate each other smell and sounds including the bodily limitations, working /earning potentials and more important the patience and perseverance to accept the other  as a long term partner.

 Culturally we are still a conservative society and marriage as an institution still thrives with more assertion by the women who have become more independent. It will be childish to go for divorce for silly reasons thinking that there is a long queue waiting for them to fill the gap left behind by the previous partner.

Cyber Intimacy:a few case studies

Let me narrate a few episodes that have come to my notice. A real story: They were schoolmates’ once. Good friends. After their graduation they drifted in different directions professionally got located in different countries.

Many years after there is an accidental meet and in the cyber intimacy world where moral universe has taken a shape altogether differently there is no inhibition for them to have sex.While the boy wants to marry her and desire to have his baby the girl refuses and decides to abort the child. She is not keen on marriage too. Given the chance and the familiarity of the person she has just yielded to her bodily needs and for all practical purpose it is a casual sexual encounter a sort of steamy affair not fully connecting emotionally and there is no regret.

The boy is puzzled and unable and unwilling to digest. He is told that she is already in a relationship with somebody in London .Whom she will marry? That is her concern. We are not here to judge her attitude or approach. I have just narrated what has happened. It is a typical case of girl behaving with boyish tendancy  enjoying the found freedom in the global cyber village without any inhibitions

Will there be any happy ending for those connected through machine. There are quite a few who treat the female body as mere objects and inject the desires into the molecules of their brain, chat for long, give false promises and then finally back out. In one such case I know the boy has become the villain. Telling the caste as a hindrance and that his parents will not agree the boy  sorry the man touching 40 says  NO. The irony is that the hero in question is a divorcee,  handsome, soft mannered and look like a gentleman and learning yoga.

The simple question is why this intelligent fool did seduce an unfortunate woman whose entire marital life lasting for a brief period was a great disaster and that she has had many accidents in her life. Is girl a plaything to be twisted and played with?