The Unposted letter –An exercise in the art of letter writing

Following is the letter that I drafted to my youngest daughter’s friend in 2002 but failed to post .For reference I should say that Joe is another pet name for my daughter .Her friend lives in Washington .Most of us have forgotten the habit of writing letters but only scribbling through short e-mails. The letter posted below not only stresses the value of true friendship but also remains the reader that once in a while we need to write letters to know who we are? What we are?

Now the Letter :

My Dear,

Since the closing days of 2002, we have been experiencing a series of turns and twists  in the drama of  our life.I must say that Joe had the necessary mental and physical stamina to withstand all those shocks and disturbances of life .

It was during that period only you thought, she had distanced from yourself and that she was not adequately plain and frank.Had she allowed me to speak, I would have explained in person, about the state of chaos prevailing here.

I only know how much love and affection Sakthi has for you.It may not be fully expressed explicitly but it would be naive to say or seduce yourselves to the belief that it does not exist.

To my knowledge, true friendship is a rare phenomena in life .It is not that everyone is gifted to strike it at the early age and keep it in perpetual motion through time.One must have judgement and wisdom to forget the transient misunderstanding and fall back upon the true spirit and perspective of friendship.

I am very sorry to hear about your own pain and agony.There’s a saying that when going becomes tough, the tough gets going.

Thank you for the letter written, but not posted yet.I would be very happy to receive your tonic   and balm to lighten my heart.

From my end, I must say that children must spend more time with mother and make her happy and reassured in life.Try to understand her feelings and frustration and provide an emotional anchor.

It’s time all of us learnt the art of detached attachment in life.Too much of love, a heightened sense of possessiveness will create wrinkles on emotional side. All of us will always practice a sense of moderation. And more important, we should not forget to laugh .