In the third
part Let me translate S Ramakrishnan’s comment on the story:
When I read
this story I understood what Shyam’s mother had told is absolutely true.
It is an altogether different matter
when we feel like talking we talk and there is difference when one goes on talking nonstop just like that
without understanding the mood of the listener. Even good friends at one stage
get irritated when there is an endless talk and the relationship becomes bitter. This
generation has not properly understood and internalized what is meant by
separation, peace and the interval. The never ending cell phone conversation
all through the night with all meaningless talk at some moment in life causes
hatred and irritation. As a result the relationship breaks down. Disappointment
and despair become the end result. I know innumerable youngsters smashing the cell phones out of sheer mental agony and the disappointment of the
fear of losing the relationship. It is doubtful l whether or not an elder would
have behaved like this.
The kind of
happiness that we derive while roaming with friends and sit- chatting we can
also get an equivalent satisfaction by remaining alone willingly. We should begin
to learn to remain alone. Here one should know the distinction between the
loneliness/aloofness stemming from the distancing / alienation caused
by the family/others and the one chosen deliberately by choice by
the individual in question.
We should
learn to remain alone more willingly. It is a different kind of taste. The
birds flock together only when they choose to fly. Thereafter, each bird goes
in its own way in search of its prey. After having chosen the tree it creates a shelter
for itself. Attempting to remain aloof and alone is essentially an act of understanding
about us.(comment by S Ramakrishnan ends
here)
#I thought
of narrating my own experience but that
can wait for a future date This short story is more contextual and with all the
benefits of digital technology there is an another side –an important side ,I
won’t call a darker side. Those who are bent upon talking endlessly and want to be united with their lovers/ well
wishers/ or friends/ and also want to see the face in Skype and what’s up video
call and so on are having problems yes real problems . I will narrate a
contrarian behavior now.I have a friend /
my childhood friend in my village and we talk only very rarely but I think about him daily as I pray for my parents who are in my thoughts constantly. I belong to the era of Shyam’s mother in the
short story. I am a talkative man and yet I moderate:.the essence of the story
is that so long as we are united in minds and the love is locked into the
hearts words are not needed and they
need not be told again and again that I love you and say further I have never been in love like this( even
when you are speaking the truth) and so on.My professor Sasankan told me at the
time of my marriage in 1972 that I should love my wife and
also tell her that I love her. Economics being the first love and wife I
did not listen to his advice and I tell my student friends that in the
dehumanized /globalised world where
people are separated by distance and the
role of lovers is foolishly forgotten by the husband- wife terminology and that
they should spend time with the partner and speak:, understanding is important
and we should not waste the words while
speaking or writing…..I have already quoted from someone that they are the
loaded pistols…..I am careful now and yet not willing to abandon my righteous anger against the injustice in
the world economy and sometime foolishly angry with the creater.
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